Friday, February 6, 2009

Goodbye, Mom ...

My mother passed away on Sunday, February 1, 2009 at 3:20 a.m. following a long and hard battle with dementia. She was well loved and loved well, and she will be greatly missed.

I’m not functioning terribly well yet, but I wanted to make this post, just to let my readers know. I’ll post more soon. It’s terribly, terribly hard – as anyone who has lost a mother would know. I’ve spent the last few years mourning the “loss” of my mother (the true essence of her), and so I guess (irrationally) I thought that her actual death would not be so very painful. After all, it was not unexpected. And by the end, we were praying that she would just not suffer anymore. But … even with all that … this is a pain that I’ve never experienced.

If you’ve been a long-time reader of this blog, you know that within the past two years I’ve lost both my sister (in a house fire) and my brother (cancer). And now my mom. I think I’m actually feeling the culmination of all three losses at once.

Anyway, it’s just incredibly hard and I’m not in a good place right now. I believe it will get easier as time goes on – that’s what friends are telling me, anyway.

I’ll post more when I can.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Patty, I am very sorry for you losses. I will put you and your family in my prayers.

Rise up; this matter is in your hands. We will support you, so take courage and do it."
Ezra 10:4

Anonymous said...

Sweet Patty, you have dealt with so much grief and stress recently and you must be exhausted both physically and emotionally.

I have been praying and will continue to pray for you to feel God's strength and comfort during this very difficult time. This is one of those times when the footprints in the sand are His.

Anonymous said...

'm so very sorry to hear about your loss Patty. Do what you need to do and come back to us when you're ready to. We're holding you in our thoughts.

Vikki said...

Hey girl,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could do to make it easier. I will continue to pray for God's comfort for you and your family.
When you need a shoulder, you know where I am.
Vikki

Di said...

So very sorry to hear of your loss ! Be patient with yourself at this difficult time.

Anonymous said...

Patty,
I am truly sorry for the loss of your Mom.
You will be in my prayers sweetie.
Shelly

Anonymous said...

Patty,
I'm so very very sorry for your latest loss.
You are in my prayers.
Hugs,
G

Anonymous said...

Patty Im sending a big hug to you and my thoughts and prayers are with you I am so sorry for the loss of your mum but at least she is in a better place please take care and look after yourself as you need to at this time
michelle

Rosie said...

Patty, I'm so sorry for your current loss and your past ones.

I don't think there are any words that I can type that will make you feel better - but time does heal.

I found this quote a long time ago, and when thinking or dealing with death for some reason brings me comfort... I wanted to share it with you:

There is no death, only a change of worlds. -Chief Seattle

 
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